2 Haziran 2012 Cumartesi

Do you know why we miss?



I really do not know and understand what is “ to miss "? Why we miss people, what are the physical, emotional, mental causes of this? Have you ever noticed when you miss people around you and whom you miss in general?  I wanted to write about this, as it is one of the most important concepts in my life recently...

One of the Oxford Dictionary's definitions for the word "miss" is to "notice or feel the loss or absence of". Do you think you could only miss somebody or something that you had been accustomed to having with you or something new or even things you have not possessed? However, I'm wondering whether it is actually possible to "miss" somebody without having seen... This doesn't seem to be ruled out by the dictionary's definition.

Love is missing someone whenever you’re apart, but somehow feeling warm inside because you’re close in heart.  ~Kay Knudsen

People always question that when we miss someone, is it because we love that person, we like that person or maybe it’s just an infatuation?  We keep on fighting with ourselves that what’s the reason for missing that person? Some time we also miss people we thought we do not really love... Many time we also miss people with whom we shared something like a special moment, a possession, an experience, an emotion, or a thought…

More and more scientists have started to make research about remembering, forgetting and missing: what are the psychological and mental functions behind them. We might ponder on the following reasons:

▪ We might miss someone when we want or need to share the moments with that person.
▪ When we are in love with that person.
▪ When we want or need to share the moments with that person.
▪ When we need to share or observe his/her particular reactions and unique traits.
▪ When we admire that person intellectually and need to share thoughts.
▪ When we respect her/his qualities and need to be close to that person.
▪ When we need someone to lean on.
▪ It might be infatuation after separation (just for particular period).
▪ It might be due to habits

Whatever may be the reason, I would say it’s very nice feeling to miss someone. You keep on thinking about that person whole day and night or if it’s worst you might start imagining him/her near you.

Many people feel that it’s the worst feeling to miss someone, but I totally disagree with this. I feel it’s the sweet pain and you can for sure enjoy missing someone. It is a sign that there are valuable people in your life. And at least you have known them... The only thing you need to remember is that you have to miss the golden moment you spend with each other. Please don’t ever miss bad times you spend with that person. Always try to cherish the good moments and it will surely bring a smile on your face. :)) For me, missing someone is only because you care for him/her. And if you are caring for someone don’t hide your feelings, as it is very important.

Another thing which people do is to hide their feelings in front of person they are missing. You must keep your ego aside and convey your feelings to that person. Life is too short; if you love or you miss someone do let him or her know. If that person understands you, it would never ruin your relationship.

So, it is always a good sign for you if you have people whom you miss... You care... You love...



Riela :))
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